"You're not getting married for the moon and the stars": The uncertainties of older British widowers about the idea of new romantic relationships

Bennett, Kate M ORCID: 0000-0003-3164-6894, Arnott, Lauren and Soulsby, Laura K (2013) "You're not getting married for the moon and the stars": The uncertainties of older British widowers about the idea of new romantic relationships. JOURNAL OF AGING STUDIES, 27 (4). pp. 499-506.

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Abstract

Older widowers are more likely to remarry than older widowed women. However, relatively little is known about the attitudes of older widowers to new romantic relationships and remarriage or repartnering. In this study of 60 widowers, more than half spontaneously discussed their attitudes toward, and experiences of, these relationships. However, none of the widowers had remarried and of those who described themselves as repartnered only one was cohabiting. We examine these data in the light of Lopata's concept of 'husband sanctification' (1981). We identify four themes. First, some widowers do sanctify their late wives. Second, we argue that wife sanctification contributes to widowers' uncertainties about repartnering. Third, when widowers make decisions to repartner, wife sanctification does not appear to make an important contribution. Finally, there is evidence to suggest that wife sanctification influences how men refer to their new women friends. Thus, we conclude by arguing that wife sanctification influences widowers' decisions surrounding remarriage/repartnering.

Item Type:	Article
Additional Information:	## TULIP Type: Conference Proceedings (contribution) ##
Uncontrolled Keywords:	Widower, Remarriage, Spousal bereavement, Friendship, Romantic
Depositing User:	Symplectic Admin
Date Deposited:	01 Sep 2015 09:30
Last Modified:	16 Dec 2022 16:50
DOI:	10.1016/j.jaging.2013.03.006
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URI:	https://livrepository.liverpool.ac.uk/id/eprint/2023304

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